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Where next?

Inspiration calls to us, it beckons us to move in to the unknown to experience the wonders around us, to step in to another world…

I’ll share where I want to travel and things I want to do. There are many places I want to visit. The list gets longer, not shorter!

I will share places I have visited. I have journeyed in many different ways: backpacking, cycle touring, motorbike touring or paddling. Each is a unique adventure.

If you are stuck at home, suffering cabin fever, read Escape the Boredom. It will stoke your curiosity and keep life fresh wherever you live and work. You’ll get proven ways to manage the mundane so you feel like you’re on holiday at home.

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Awaken your Innocent Archetype

“It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.” Richard Bandler

Are you struggling to start new projects? If you’ve had setbacks in the past, these may be upmost in your mind. Is your inner voice telling you that you’ll fail? Does the thought of starting something new feel futile? The Innocent Archetype is the energy that you need to reconnect to the optimist within you.

You can access all the different Archetype energies. Some may be more available than others depending on your life experience. The art is to be able to access what you need when you need it. If you’re at a point where you want start something new, the Innocent Archetype is the energy you need to get going!

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement

The Innocent Archetype is the trusting spontaneous child that while a bit dependent, has the optimism to take the journey. Anyone starting a new venture needs the gifts of the Innocent to get them started – optimism, hope, faith and trust. Without the Innocent, we’d never leave the harbour.

Why do I need healthy Innocent Energy in my life?

The Innocent fears abandonment and seeks safety. They can become dependent on others to fulfil their heroic task. The shadow side of the Innocent is evident in their capacity for denial. They don’t let themselves know what’s going on. They may be hurting themselves and others and they will not let themselves acknowledge it. They may be hurt, but they repress that knowledge as well.

There may be naivete. They may believe what others say even though it is counter to their own inner knowing. This leads to consumerism and sugar addiction. The shadow side of the Innocent is also needs to be cheerful all the time, in a way that denies experiencing other emotions. Cheerfulness is a mask.

Why do I need Innocent Energy?

The Innocent Archetype can support you in your search for happiness. They bring a sense of wonder and appreciate the simple life.

Do you want to feel optimistic about your future? Do you require faith in your abilities? Do you have projects that you want to start?

When the Innocent thrives in us, we believe in possibilities and happy endings. This state of innocence allows us to access new inspiration and start new projects. They bring the gifts of faith, hope, optimism, honesty and trust. If you want to connect with the spontaneous trusting child in you that has the optimism to take the journey, join my Innocent Archetype workshop. This archetype’s greatest strengths are trust and optimism that endears them to others. People will believe their honest optimism, help and support the endeavour.

“Optimism is not just a mindset, it’s a behaviour.” Larry Elder

The Innocent values the simple life and finds happiness and magic in the everyday.

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Awaken the Entertainer Archetype

Do you need to step forward and share your perspective?

Have you got something important to share? You need to access your Entertainer energy

The Entertainer’s goal is to have fun and brig light to the situation. This archetype also called the jester or fool maty seem synonymous with comedy and humour. The key aspect of this archetype is their ability to see things differently. Perspective is their true skill.

The Entertainer is entertaining, but what they really brig is ideas, innovation and the ability to reframe concepts as no one can. The successful Entertainer can take a serious subject and make light of it in a way that’s comfortable for others.

The Shadow Side of the Entertainer

The Entertainer fears boredom. At their worst they are irresponsible, cruel and frivolous. The shadow side is the glutton, sloth or lecher, defined by urges of the body without any sense of dignity or self-control

The Healthy Entertainer

The Entertainer wants to live joyfully and in the present. They can have fun with intelligence. Life should be lived to the fullest each moment. Enjoy life just as it is, with all the paradoxes and dilemmas.

The Entertainer lives without restraint and shines with unrelenting confidence. They can lighten awkward silences and serious situations. This archetype is not afraid to stand out and may even bend the rules if it will help them reach their goal! The gifts are carefree, joyful, original, enjoyment and irreverence. The Entertainer Archetype allows us to step out into life and share our unique perspective.

Reconnect to exuberant joy by access the workshops here:  Entertainer Archetype

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Awaken the Creator

The Creator, Maker or Artist is the Archetype that helps us express ourselves in beautiful ways. They foster all imaginative endeavours, from the highest art to the smallest lifestyle or work innovation. The Creator expresses their identity through their creations and in doing so they explore their relationship to the world. A critical part of their quest is finding and accepting themselves.

Pitfalls of the Creator

The shadow side shows itself as obsessive, a need to create and to do this to fill our emptiness. There can be endless essential projects, challenges or new things to do that can manifest in workaholism. This shadow side also manifests as creating messes. Lot of things started and nothing getting completed. The Poor Artist is a stereotype.

Another pitfall is the Prima-donna behaviours. The extreme self-indulgence of the Shadow Side of the Creator can be self-sabotaging. Another pitfall is they can become addicted to their work/creativity.

Benefits of the healthy Creator

The goal of the Creator is clarity on their identity. They are visionaries, creative, imaginative and skilful. The Creator expresses their individuality. They have strong aesthetics, noticing beauty and creating it in their own way. This Archetype can use their self-expression as their vocation.

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Awaken your Explorer Archetype

Are you struggling to get out and do what you want? If you have been in a relationship, maybe you’ve been running round after the needs of your children or you have spent a long period of time withdrawn, the thought of going out on your own may feel overwhelming. The Explorer Archetype is the energy that you need to reconnect to within you.

You can access all the different Archetype energies. Some may be more available than others depending on your life experience. The art is to be able to access what you need when you need it. If you’re at a point where you want to search for a better life, the Explorer Archetype is the energy for this quest!

Following a path of self-discovery

The Explorer leaves the known, to discover and explore the unknown. They’re brave and strong enough to be on their own, to seek out new paths. They are on a quest to rediscover their uniqueness, their perspective and their calling. Authenticity is the goal of the Explorer; they want to be who they really are, not what society has told them to be.

“Freedom is oxygen of the soul” – Moshe Dayan

Adventurous, open-minded and independent they often like to travel. Travel allows them to explore somewhere new, but also themselves in relation to that new experience. New cultures, new experiences and ways of undertaking tasks creates a new perspective on life. There’s clarity and expanded possibilities in knowing life has many opportunities, not only the way you were socialised to do things. Who do you choose to be?

Why do I need healthy Explorer Energy in my life?

Seeking freedom all the time can lead to alienation and loneliness. Explorers are looking for something that will improve their life but may not realise they have much already inside themselves. This can result in feelings of chronic disappointment. The shadow side is going from one self-improvement course to yet another health club as their main life activity. They are striving to live up to an impossible goal or to find the ‘right’ solution.

The Shadow side is the never feel ready to commit to accomplish anything. The life challenge is to be unafraid to commit to settling in one place with one person, in one style of life. Exploration can be emotional as well as physical.

Why do I need Explorer Energy?

Do you have gifts that you want to bring to the world? Is it time to stop following the crowd, and be you? Did you give your life in the service to others and lose your identity along the way? Who are you when you’re not fulfilling a role? The Explorer Archetype can support you in your search for an authentic life.

The gifts of the Explorer are independence, bravery, non-conformity and self-sufficiency. If you want to connect with who you are on a deeper level, join my Explorer Archetype workshop. This archetype will support you to be true to your deeper self. It’s nonconformist but it will support you to discover your uniqueness and calling.

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step” Lao Tzu

The Explorer just keeps moving until they find their goal and usually their true self too.

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Mastery – the gift of the Warrior Archetype

“I don’t know how I’m going to win. I just know I’m not going to lose.” Gokham Saki
When life gets tough, you need your inner Warrior to step forward, be brave and determined. Otherwise, you feel a victim of life and giving away your power. This powerless position isn’t going to get you to where you want to be in life. It isn’t going to make your big, beautiful dreams come true. If you want positive change, you need to be brave and make it happen. A Warrior is a brave fighter – this is an energy; it’s not linked to gender. The fight can be an inner fight to make a change in your life. You may also choose to call upon the Warrior to champion the cause of others. Maybe a fight for social justice or a more harmonious way of living on the earth. The Warrior represents physical strength, and the ability to protect and fight for your rights and those of others. The Warrior is a fighter with a heart. “Don’t be afraid to fail. Be afraid not to try.” The Warrior personifies determination and a will to win. You may not know how you will win, but you need the courage of the Warrior to pursue your goals.
She needed a hero, so she became one
If you are drawn to work with this Archetype you may require the Warrior spirit to help you set firm personal boundaries and to stand up for your rights. This energy is helpful if you want to take control in your life, and no longer wish to play the role of the victim. Women can bring their feminine qualities to leadership roles. Communication, Cooperation and nurturing others to bring the best out in them. These qualities empower a team enabling it to be more and achieve more. Ewin McManus said “The Warrior is always a servant… The Warrior does not serve because they cannot lead; they know that a person cannot lead if they do not serve.”
WHY DO I NEED HEALTHY warrior ENERGY?
Confucius – “Never give a sword to a man who can’t dance.” This ancient wisdom tells us that there needs to be a union with the heart to hold power responsibly. A Warrior has a strong connection between their will/power and their heart. The heart guides the direction, otherwise the Warrior skills being used for personal gain without thought of morality, ethics or the good of the whole group are the Archetypal Villain. This is also active in our lives any time we feel compelled to compromise our principles to get our way or win. The shadow side of the Warrior reflects the need to win at all costs, abandoning ethical principles to prove your supremacy. The shadow of the Warrior is rampant in business today. Conversely the Warrior may appeal to you if you have a very strong sense of self and are proud of the victories you have achieved. The shadow side of Warrior may be asking you to reflect honestly on the cost of these victories. Have they been at the expense of others or your principles?
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN IN MY LIFE?
In the 3 x 1-hour sessions of the Exploring the Warrior Archetype we immerse in this energy. Embodying the Warrior Archetype and her goal of mastery. This can be applied to any area of your life. Challenging work tasks need focus and determination. You can activate this powerful energy, rather than languishing in procrastination. Tough and courageous, this archetype helps you set and achieve goals, overcome obstacles and persist in difficult times.  In the workshop you will examine the pitfalls which are arrogance and ruthlessness. Awareness supports you to choose a new course of action. ​ The Warrior’s gifts are courage, discipline, determination and skill. Exploring the Warrior Archetype will support you to enrich your life with these gifts.
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Liberation – the gift of the Destroyer Archetype

“Everything I’ve ever let go of has claw marks on it.”

David Foster Wallace

Every month we have a New Moon. This is the time of darkness. This state of darkness is familiar to us and something we shouldn’t fear. We came from darkness in the womb. We have day and night, a time of rest and revival. Depending on what you believe, there is also the darkness before your soul enters your body and your current incarnation. These are all cycles the clearing before the start of something new.

We are familiar with a period of Wintering, of dissolution and this is a natural cycle. It’s not sustainable to be in the full action of summer all the time. Just imagine, if we did do this, there wouldn’t be time for change. Although we would be perpetually busy, we’d become stagnant, doing the same things over and over. Repeating the same mistakes. There would be no time for review, learning and letting go. Does this sound familiar? Is a pattern in your life?

Knowing when to let go

The Gift of the Destroyer Archetype is to know when it is time to let go and to do so with grace. Letting go is a crucial part of life. Learning to let go and trust that something better will take its place is a life-lesson. This is a natural death and rebirth cycle. When we embody this energy in ourselves, we can move on from situations that we’ve outgrown, being present to harvest the lessons and turn it into wisdom.

How are you at endings?

Do you fear them?

You can be present at endings when you embody the Destroyer Archetype energy. You don’t avoid difficult emotions. You have the capacity to be present, to grieve the loss or perceived loss and that allows you to move on.

Why do I need healthy Destroyer energy?

Why is this important? If you can’t allow the emotions to move through you, you’ll find yourself stuck, unable to move on in your life. This may mean:

  • You don’t start a new relationship as you fear a possible end and heartache. The result is you stay alone and feel lonely.
  • You can’t let go of belongings as you have not processed the emotions and moved on from that part of your life. You’re hording/chained to the past as you haven’t dealt with it.
  • In business you may be unable to complete projects and move on to something new and better. Incapable of ending a product that isn’t performing well and make space for something new.
  • You are stuck repeating life-limiting beliefs. To allow yourself to become someone new, you need to crack open your protective shell and dissolve who you are. The old you must die before the new you can become.

The Destroyer Archetype bears gifts for you. We need a time of darkness and reflection to be able to formulate the wisdom. This gives us clarity in what is a weed and what is something we should keep and nurture in our life. The Destroyer energy supports us to move beyond fear and weed out limiting beliefs. When you master Wintering, you learn to collaborate with the dying of the old, the outworn, the tattered disguises and know this is process of liberation.

In our outer focused Western culture, we are not taught to recognise and honour these organic cycles and override them -often at a huge personal cost in terms of stress and burnout. Winter is not the death of the life cycle, but it’s preparing the ground for the fertile new growth.

What does this mean in my life?

Your life is continuously moving through this birth, growth, death and rebirth cycle. If you are in business you may want to take a moment to recognise where your projects are. Are you holding on to things that need to be released? Are you fearful of letting go? Recognise that there is always a threshold, ending one cycle while anticipating a new one around the corner.

Take some quiet time to reflect your relationship to endings.

  • How were you taught to deal with uncomfortable feelings?
  • Are you fully present at endings?
  • Do you choose to remain in a relationship long after it is has ceased to be beneficial to you?

Do you want to be able to create a new and better life for yourself? If so, you need to release that which limits you. You need to be brave, progressive and take risks. These are leadership qualities. You need to lead yourself into your improved life and that means destroying the old, so your energy is thereafter able to be focused on creating the new.

Is it time to end the claw marks and fearful grasping?

Let go gracefully.

The Destroyer Archetype workshops allow you to let go and liberate yourself. The 3 x 1hours workshops Explore the Destroyer Archetype and activate the gifts: capacity to let go, bravery, risk-taking, progressive, leadership and enable metamorphosis in your life.

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The Goddess of Never Not Broken

Do you feel you are in a state of flux, disorientated and unsure of the future? This is a natural state and we all feel it at some time in our lives. Although it may feel uncomfortable it opens new possibilities for your future. You no longer have a well worn route, doing the same things day after day, you can do or be whatever you want.
 
This article helps us see the gifts of this way of being: “there is a goddess from Hindu mythology that teaches us that, in this moment, in this pile on the floor, you are more powerful than you’ve ever been.”
 
 
When you have read the article do let me know what you think. Are you riding the crocodile?
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2020 Winter Solstice – what do you choose for your 2021?

We have all been through a transformational 2020. Whether your work has changed, your financial circumstances, there have been dramatic adjustments to seeing family and friends, as well as your liberties have been constrained. We live in a world with different rules to the one we were in 12 months ago. This Winter Solstice a very potent time. This blog will give you guiding question to help you release 2020 and get ready to welcome in 2021.

Journal prompts

I encourage you to grab your journal a cuppa and settle down for 20 minutes of reflection and visioning. Take a few deeper slow breaths, relax into your body and allow your awareness and answers to come from your heart rather than your head. Complete the following:

For me, the last year has been…

What I have learned is…

I am most proud of…

What good things have happened?

What have been your favourite moments?

What have been your most difficult moments?

What have you learned about yourself?

What has become more important to you?

One word to describe what you are letting of/releasing in 2020:

You may have heard that Jupiter and Saturn will be so close together that they will be seen as one bright star. This is been likened to the Star in Bethlehem. You may want to head out and look in the South West direction for this amazing spectacle. This is a time of great change for the planets. We are affected by their energies and it helps us to understand what is happening.

What does this mean? Saturn represents discipline, structure – this can be yourself and structure and discipline exerted on the masses by external forces. Jupiter is unfolding spirituality and bestower of gifts. Today be aware of these two elements in your life as you set your intentions for the coming year.

You may have also heard that we are stepping into a new age, the age of Aquarius. What does this mean? The last age was Pisces, an earth sign, Aquarius is an air sign. Things won’t feel so heavy. There will be new inspiration, working with technologies and finding new innovative solutions. Aquarius is free-spirited, progressive, original, independent, humanitarian. As Maressa Brown explains that “this period will be about learning and growth around how we as individuals contribute to and affect — for better or worse — the world around us, whether that’s a collaborative effort with colleagues or fellow environmental protection activists. It’ll be about putting in the work and reaping the benefits of trading “me” for “we.”

Journal Prompts for 2021

What is your vision for the future?

What needs to die to make space for your vision?

What is working for you?

If you knew you couldn’t fail, what do you think you’d be doing that you aren’t now?

What is important to you?

How can you be disciplined to create the life you want?

What are you known for?

What do you want to be known for?

What do you need to let go of to align with the new you?

What spiritual gifts are there for you, if you choose to elevate your frequency by stepping out of fear and allow more love into your life?

What is your word for 2020?

What is your first step towards that?

Aquarius is a future-focused sign. Get clear on your vision for your future. Transformation comes from the inside out. Give your self 20 minutes to get clear on your next year. Please share below any insights on your 2020 or what you want to create in 2021.

Happy Solstice

Sarah

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Top tips for December

Moving into December 2020, this blog will support you to finish the year gracefully. We are in the dark half of the year, short days and long nights. This is a time for rest, being, surrendering. The time of year to go inward. When we didn’t have electrical lights, we had to slow with the rhythm of the seasons. This article will give you tips on how to move with more ease through the darkness.

What has the pandemic taught us?

This dark time, the end of autumn as we approach winter is a time to take stock of the year that we experienced. 2020 has been an exceptional year. We have all been in the workshop of life! It has shaken us to our core, made us review what we took for granted and reminded us to appreciate the small things in life.

Many people’s perspective has been changed by their experiences. Previously their life focused on the future and doing. They looked forward to Friday, to going away, the next holiday, they wanted it to be sunny so they could be busy outdoors. The pandemic ended our ability move around and plan with certainty. People’s focus became more about being in the moment and gratitude for what was around them. There was a depth to people’s experiences. Life became about quality, not quantity. Many realised they had been time poor and their health was suffering previously. It has been a big awakening.

Life review without judgement

We can take this quality of being that was cultivated during lockdown and relax back into it. This darkness the time to review your life without judgement. Notice where you are. How does it feel? Just sit quietly, take a slow deep breaths and exhale slowly. Allow yourself to relax. Drop your awareness down to your heart space. Do you feel you are on your path in life? Or does it feel like you are in the gravel or deep sand not going anywhere? Listen to your body, your feeling. What do you sense? Be honest with where you are.

Keep your pockets full of dreams

You know where you are and but do you know where you want to go? Keep your pockets full of dreams because life is a test of faith. What’s the most positive vision you have about your life? What does it look like? How do you ideally see yourself? There’s lots of change in the world and you may feel a need for change in your life. Now is the time to get clear on what that means. You may be choosing a new destination for your life.

New destination

Before this year we were swept along on a narrative which encouraged people to work long hours so they could buy lots of thigs and escape on holiday. What 2020 has taught many is that this way of being wasn’t fulfilling. Time to review their life has enabled their suppressed dreams to bubble o the surface. They are aligning themselves onto their path, getting out of the old rut and stepping into their Life Purpose.

She woke up one morning

In the wrong life,

With no damn idea.

Shock ruptured her soul,

 

Searching for something –

Nothing was there.

Shaken to her core,

Anxiety fuelled sad

 

Tears stung her face,

Panic ripped her heart,

Sadness stole her eyes

And truth ran through cold.

 

She woke up one morning

“You got yourself in this, you get yourself out!”

She focused in tight

On glimpses of light,

 

One day at a time

She got out of her hole.

Freedom felt close,

Energy soared.

 

A decision was made,

She trusted herself,

Walked straight out the door

And let her wings bring her home.                    Lynette Allen

 

What is your Life Purpose?

Now is a good time to do a life review without judgement. I encourage you to check in with yourself. What emotion are you feeling a lot of the time? If you are in a negative space, I encourage you to identify what’s knocking you off course. Are you doing the thing you love doing in life? What brings you joy and fulfilment? You’ll know what it is because even if you aren’t getting paid, you love doing it. You’ll get so absorbed and not notice the time passing.

Embrace the stillness of this time of year. Without stillness nothing new can be created. Take time to be still, go within and listen. Review the past year, learn from all your experiences. Notice how you have grown and developed through these unique times. Celebrate your successes.

 

What is time to let go of?

You are different, with different friends to the young girl you were many years ago. Everything changes. Trying to stay the same is unnatural. First, you must let go of the old you to make space for the new you. This is like a snake shedding it’s skin. You need to hide under a rock, while you grow and the new you forms. Embrace stillness and allow yourself to hear the wisdom. What are you becoming? In the darkness, what seeds do you need to plant in your life?

If you want support as we move into the darkness to find your path, do get in touch. Schedule a 20 minute complimentary call

Enjoy the gifts of the darkness and stillness.

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Celebrating the beauty of a middle-aged woman

Its autumn in the UK and I love this time of year, the turning of the colours. Things move out of vivid colours to richer tones. A woman’s life can be linked to the seasons and I’m in the autumn of my life. I am an Autumn Queen. In this blog, I going to share my musings about nature and why women’s middle aged bodies are beautiful.

A woman’s life in seasons

As I said the seasons can be linked to the phases of a woman’s life. Spring is the girl/maiden, after her first period she moves into Summer the mother, which is a time of creation – this may be work it doesn’t have to be children. Autumn in the peri-menopause, the time of letting go of the old that no longer serves us in our lives, like the trees let go of their leaves. We bring the harvest of our experience to those we serve. Finally, there is winter, the crone, this about endings and there has to be an ending for there to be something new.

The bust of Nefertiti was found in an Egyptian tomb in 1913. This changed the west’s perception of beauty. Out went the curvy renaissance woman with her feminine body a soft tummy. Nefertiti was a new kind of beauty, slim and angular, you will be familiar with this form in photoshoots in magazines. Models are chosen to represent this idea of beauty.

Not many women’s bodies are naturally the shape that is portrayed. It’s statistically unrealistic to have a model body. Letting go of the idea that any of us need to conform to this beauty industry concept is very freeing.

Nature’s beauty

Heading out the house into nature makes me feel relaxed. There’s the grandeur and strength of the trees that have been growing many more years than I have been alive. They will outlast me. The magic and delight of seeing a beautiful flower, a colourful leaf or the stain glass colours of the sun through the leaves. Nothing is perfect but it’s all brings a sense of awe.

Looking at the autumn leaves, I marvel at the beautiful colours as the trees reclaim the chlorophyll, the reds, browns, oranges and yellows. I realised that the tree trunks of the trees all had unique shapes. None of them were perfectly straight and unblemished, the idea tree. They had been moulded by the space they lived in and they each looked beautiful to me. They are each more interesting because they are unique, their shape, ripples, sagging, knots and scar tissue.

Autumn in nature and the Autumn Queen

I realise that trees, leaves and flowers are beautiful because they aren’t perfect. In my blog Women reclaim your bodies I encouraged women to celebrate their bodies as the beautiful vessels of their experiences. We are older, wiser and our bodies show it, just like the magnificent tree trunk with its ripples, sagging and scars.

I see the tree as magnificent. I wondered, is my body as an Autumn Queen magnificent? Only I, decide whether the answer is yes or no. I choose the lens of beauty – is it renaissance or Nefertiti or something else? When I look in the mirror, I choose whether to judge the reflection or not and by what standards. I want my body to flourish. I want to take pleasure in being me. I choose to love my body and l know am magnificent, curves, scars and all.

When you look in the mirror… what do you see?

Do you see your magnificence?

Are you proud of who you are?

Every woman should know she is beautiful. I want you to know in your bones you are beautiful.  If you are struggling to move your mindset and allow this truth in, join my  powerful free workshop: Love Who You Are. You can also work with me one to one as your Embodiment Coach, where we can get to the core of your particular situation and weed out destructive beliefs from your past. Free yourself to be magnificent!